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50 Harsh facts of life – Part 3



Welcome to part 3 of a 5 part series: 50 Harsh facts of life

In this week’s article we’re talking:

  • Big Egos
  • Brainwashing
  • Fake News
  • Political Correctness
  • Propaganda
  • Self-sabotage
  • Steroids

These are the top 50 harsh facts of life…

30. The threat of consequences are necessary 

Protesters, Police

“The clearest way to show the need for laws is to recall what has happened when there is no rule of law.” – Dwight D. Eisenhower, 34th US President

Let’s be honest: It would be great if we lived in a world where people treated each other the way they would like to be treated, but we don’t.

Without the threat of consequences, most people would act crazy. Most people aren’t well behaved law abiding citizens because they’re good people, but only because of the threat of consequences and punishment (fines and prison).

Without the law and the police in place to enforce it, murder, rape, theft, and every other crime imaginable would skyrocket overnight, and there would be complete anarchy in every country on earth.

29. Shit happens

Car crash, shit happens

Sometimes shit happens and there is nothing you can do about it.

Maybe it’s a death in the family or losing all of your money in the stock market, or simply something as embarrassing as accidentally farting on a date, forgetting your lines on stage, or having a bird poop on you.

Unfortunately my friend that’s life. It doesn’t matter how much you don’t want these things to happen they will.

Shit happens. Bad days happen. Death happens. Disasters and tragedies occur.

Good days and bad, happiness and sadness, pleasure and pain, they follow each other in endless succession and you cannot get one without the other.

My advice: Whenever you’re having a bad day and shit happens or tragedy strikes, remember this quote: “This too, shall pass”

28. The more you need help the harder it is to get


As I said in my article 21 Paradoxes of life unfortunately it’s a fact of life that the more you need help, the harder it is to get.

The hardest time to get a date, a job, a loan etc. is when you really need one.

No one wants to hire someone who really needs the job, or to lend money to someone who really needs it, or to be with someone too desperate or needy.

It’s unfair but it’s true.

27. Most things in life are outside of your control

We all want to feel in control of our lives.

Unfortunately, the truth is that literally 99.99% of everything is OUTSIDE of your control.

Things you can’t control:

  • Your age, face, height, skin color
  • Your family/friends/other people
  • What other people think/say/do
  • If someone likes you
  • If you get the job
  • The economy
  • The stock market
  • The weather

My advice: Forget about the things you can’t control (other people, the stock market, the weather), and focus on the things you can control (your diet, your exercise regime, your goals, your habits, how you spend their time, your work ethic etc.)

26. Big egos thrive

“Sorry losers and haters, but my I.Q. is one of the highest – and you all know it! Please don’t feel so stupid or insecure, it’s not your fault.” – Donald Trump

Forget humility. Successful people almost always have big egos.

This is something you won’t hear at a Tony Robbins seminar or read in a self-help book, because it’s not a popular or politically correct thing to say, and therefore no one wants to admit it. But it’s true. Open your eyes and take a look around you.

99% of the most successful people in history and in the world today have massive egos:

  • Arnold Schwarzenegger
  • Brad Pitt
  • Bruno Mars
  • Conor McGregor
  • Donald Trump
  • Eddie Murphy
  • Floyd Mayweather
  • George Clooney
  • Kanye West
  • Kobe Bryant
  • Madonna
  • Michael Jordan
  • Mike Tyson
  • Muhammad Ali
  • Nicki Minaj
  • The Rock
  • Snoop Dogg
  • Stephen Colbert
  • Steve Jobs
  • Tony Robbins
  • Will Smith

I could go on and on just naming successful people, and you’d have to nod your head in agreement.

I know there are people like Bill Gates, Jimmy Fallon, and Oprah, who are both humble and successful, but for every one of them there are a thousand other successful actors, athletes, celebrities, entrepreneurs, rappers and rock stars with massive egos.

Arrogance, narcissism, pride, vanity, competitiveness, selfishness, a big ego… these are all qualities looked down upon in society yet they’re extremely common qualities in the world’s most successful people.

I’m not making a judgement or value call here, I’m just calling it like I see it.

My advice: Don’t hate on arrogant people with big egos, learn from them.

3 life lessons we can learn from people with big egos:

  • Confidence: They’re confident so they take action (instead of holding back)
  • Competitiveness: They’re competitive so they play to win and take chances (instead of playing it safe and staying in their comfort zone)
  • Persistence: They’re persistent because they believe they’re destined to be/do/have something great, so they don’t give up when times are tough and things aren’t going their way

25. Almost all pro athletes use steroids

Lance Armstrong, Steroids

“I have never doped … How many times do I have to say it? … Well, it can’t be any clearer than ‘I’ve never taken drugs’. I have competed as an endurance athlete for 25 years with no spike in performance, passed more than 500 drug tests and never failed one.” – Lance Armstrong

UFC Fighter Nate Diaz recently accused the entire UFC roster of being on steroids saying “everybody’s on steroids, the whole UFC, everyone, they’re ALL on steroids.”

The comments were controversial for some but definitely not for me.

Olympic and pro athletes in every sport from athletics, baseball, bodybuilding, boxing, cycling, football, MMA, rugby, swimming, wrestling to the WWE are busted for steroids so frequently these days that it’s almost a cliche. It’s not even a thing anymore because everyone is doing it.

Seriously it’s not a question of who is using steroids, it’s who isn’t?

Jon Jones, the UFC Undefeated Light Heavyweight Champion, and pound for pound #1 was recently busted for steroids, as was the previous pound for pound #1 Anderson Silva, as were many others in the UFC such as Brock Lesnar, Alistair Overeem, Tito Ortiz, Vitor Belfort, Yoel Romero, Jacare and UFC 1 winner Royce Gracie.

World Boxing world champions Evander Holyfield, Roy Jones Jr, Shane Mosley, and James Toney have all been busted for using steroids too, as have Olympic gold medal sprinters Ben Johnson, Carl Lewis, Tyson Gay and Marion Jones, along with hundreds of other Olympic and pro athletes.

Even Lance Armstrong who was considered the perfect example of a clean athlete, someone who had passed over 500 drug tests over a 10 year period, and had always denied using steroids and even tried to silence his accusers by threatening to sue them, was secretly using steroids throughout his entire career and that was how he managed to win the Tour de France 7x in a row (1999-2005).

But guys like Jon Jones and Lance Armstrong aren’t the exception to the rule, they ARE the rule. They’re not the only ones who’ve used steroids, they’re just the 1% of athletes who’ve been busted.

IMO: 80-90% of pro athletes are on steroids and it’s not that some pro athletes are on steroids and some aren’t, it’s that some athletes have been busted and others haven’t (yet). I think the only reason no one is honest about it, is because it’s still frowned upon in society and therefore an athletes honest could cost them their careers along with millions of dollars in prize money and sponsorship’s.

So right now we’re still living in a time where athletes have to keep their steroid use secret and lie about it, pretend their superhuman bodies are the result of ‘genetics’ and ‘hard work’, and then act confused and dumbfounded when they get caught and make up some lie about ‘tainted supplements’.

It’s not just athletes using steroids either. It’s fitness models, rappers (Dr Dre, 50 Cent, LL Cool J, Timbaland), action movie stars (Arnold Schwarzenegger, Slyvestor Stallone, Hugh Jackman, the Rock), and just regular guys that want to look good at the beach and at the gym, similar to the way women get boob/butt implants, botox and plastic surgery, to try to get an edge in the looks department.

In fact, millions of men around the world over the age of 30 get doctor prescribed TRT (Testosterone replacement therapy) in order to bring their testosterone levels back to where they were when they were in their early twenties, and I might too.

Arnold Schwarzenegger (my childhood hero) can thank steroids for his entire career. Without steroids he never would have had that body or become 7x Mr Olympia. Without that body he never would have become the Terminator or the #1 action movie star in Hollywood. Without his celebrity status he never would have been voted in as the governor of California. Yes it was hard work and dedication, but it was also steroids that got the ball rolling and built the entire foundation of his success.

24. Everyone is trying to brainwash you

Trevor Noah, Daily Show

“One believes things because one has been conditioned to believe them.” – Aldous Huxley, Brave New World

I said in part one of this series: No one wants you to be yourself, and now I’m going to take it a step further and say: No one wants you to think for yourself either.


It’s funny, because people often say “don’t believe everything you hear”, or “think for yourself”, but the truth is that no one wants you to think for yourself. They simply want you to agree with them and believe everything they tell you.

Isn’t this true in your own experience?

Literally everyone wants to tell you:

  • What to think
  • What to believe
  • What to like/want/value
  • What the ‘facts’ are
  • What the ‘truth’ is
  • What things mean
  • What’s important
  • What matters
  • How to act
  • What to do
  • Who your heroes and role models should be
  • Who the ‘good guys’ and ‘bad guys’ are
  • What kind of a life you should live

And if you dare to disagree or even have another opinion, (even if it’s backed up by logic and evidence), then you’re just ‘wrong’, and most people will even get angry and be offended with you.

Seriously everyone is trying to brainwash you:

  • Hollywood
  • Politicians
  • Religions
  • Schools/Universities
  • The Media
  • Everyone else (including your parents, teachers, family and friends)

Hollywood, late night talk shows such as the late show with Stephen Colbert, Jimmy Kimmel live, late night with Seth Meyers, the Daily show with Trevor Noah, and 95% of the news media: CNN, ABC, CBS, MSNBC etc. are engaged in a 24/7, 365, all day every day effort to brainwash you with liberal lies and propaganda disguised as ‘entertainment’, ‘jokes’, and ‘news’.

In fact, most people are so brainwashed by liberal propaganda these days that the truth is often labeled as “hate speech”, and if you say anything that is any way viewed as ‘politically incorrect’, you’re likely to be attacked and labeled:

  • Bigot
  • Fascist
  • Homophobe
  • Islamophobe
  • Xenophobe
  • Misogynist
  • Racist
  • Sexist
  • Nazi

“Truth – It’s the new hate speech.” – George Orwell

These insults and labels are just scare tactics however, designed to silence you, and to prevent critical thinking and any intelligent discussion of the facts.

Why does everyone want to brainwash you? So they can control you and manipulate you. It’s simply easier for others if you’ll just think, believe, and do, whatever you’re told.

My advice: Accept that you’re brainwashed because you are. Everyone is. I’m brainwashed. You’re brainwashed. We’re all brainwashed. It’s only the type of brainwashing that differs. Maybe you’ve been brainwashed to be a Christian, Hindu or Muslim, or with Conservative or Liberal political worldviews. Whatever.

The only way to see through your current brainwashing (and prevent any further brainwashing), is to start thinking for yourself (critical thinking) and start questioning everything you see, hear, read, watch and listen to. Don’t just believe something because it’s on the news or because it’s trending on social media.

I also recommend examining all of your deepest convictions as to what ‘reality’ and the ‘truth’ is, because many of the things you’ve been brainwashed to believe by your parents, teachers, family, friends, religion, the media etc. …simply aren’t true.

“There is a war on for your mind.” – Alex Jones, Conspiracy theorist, Infowars  

23. Fake news 

“The media’s the most powerful entity on earth. They control the minds of the masses. They have the power to make the innocent guilty and to make the guilty innocent, and that’s power. If you’re not careful, the newspapers will have you hating the people who are being oppressed, and loving the people who are doing the oppressing.” – Malcolm X

Myth: The news media is an honest, impartial, and unbiased provider of information, existing solely for the benefit of the public to give us the facts, and to keep us informed and updated with what’s actually going on in the world.

Reality: The news media is not a public service. It does not exist to give you the facts nor to tell you the truth. It is a multi-billion dollar business that exists for the sole purpose of attracting readers/listeners/viewers and to make money, and as a vehicle to brainwash the masses with various corporate, national, and political ideologies and propaganda.

The journalists and reporters who present the news are just as dishonest and untrustworthy as the politicians they judge and ridicule on a daily basis.

If every article and news story had to be fact checked and screened for evidence before being presented to the public, nothing would ever get published.

Literally every news website should be renamed to or because that’s all they are.

99% of all ‘news’ fits into one or more of the following categories:

  • Clickbait
  • Disinformation/misinformation
  • Fake news
  • Fear mongering
  • Gossip/rumors
  • Lies/spin
  • Propaganda
  • Slander/smear tactics

Things to remember when watching the news 

  • You are being told this story for a reason. The agenda might be corporate, national, or political, but there is always an agenda and a reason for each story.
  • You are NOT hearing all the facts
  • You are NOT hearing both sides of the story
  • You are NOT hearing an unbiased and impartial account

Questions to ask yourself when watching the news 

  • Whose perspective is this presented from? Liberal or conservative? (If you’re watching CNN, MSNBC, ABC or CBS it’s a liberal perspective, if you’re watching Fox news it’s a conservative perspective)
  • Am I getting all the facts? No.
  • Am I being presented with both sides of the story? No.
  • How much of what I’m hearing is based on hearsay and speculation? 99%
  • Is one side being made to look bad, evil, ignorant, or stupid? Yes.
  • What conclusions does this story or report want me to draw?

My advice:

  • Start questioning everything you see, hear, read, watch and listen to
  • Don’t just believe something because it’s on the news or trending on social media
  • Don’t allow the news media to brainwash you and to tell you what to think or what to believe. Think for yourself. Make your own mind up.
  • Don’t be naive and think that you’re informed and know what’s going on in the world because you watch the news because you don’t. You only know what you’re told and nothing more.

“Nothing can now be believed which is seen in a newspaper. Truth itself becomes suspicious by being put into that polluted vehicle. The man who never looks into a newspaper is better informed than he who reads them; inasmuch as he who knows nothing is nearer to truth than he whose mind is filled with falsehoods & errors.” – Thomas Jefferson, 3rd US President, 1807 

22. You are your own worst enemy

Mike Tyson

“We have met the enemy and he is us.” – Walt Kelly

If you take an honest look at who is to blame for most of the problems in your life, you’ll quickly find that it’s not your parents, your family, your boss, the President, the Prime minister or anyone else – it’s you.

You are your biggest competition, harshest critic, and worst enemy all wrapped into one, and you do more to sabotage your success than anyone else ever will.

You say and do things you know you’re going to regret.

You don’t do the things you know you would be good for you.

You waste time and energy on things that don’t matter.

So the next time you try to blame anyone else for your problems just remember that you chose almost everything about your life: Your career/job. Your clothes. You diet. Your friends. Your habits. Your hobbies. Your home. Your lifestyle.

If you don’t like them, do something to change them.

You are the cause of most of your problems, and you alone can solve them.

“If you could kick the person in the pants responsible for most of your trouble, you wouldn’t sit for a month.” – Theodore Roosevelt, 26th US President

21. All men are not created equal

“We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal.” – Thomas Jefferson, 3rd US President, the American Declaration of Independence

Unfortunately, all men and women are NOT created equal.

It’s nice to believe we are, but it’s simply not true.

Let’s be honest: Some people are born better looking, more confident, and with seemingly superior intelligence.

Others are born blind or deaf, with deformed limbs/the loss of limbs, brain, heart, skin, or spinal problems, dwarfism, or with mental disabilities such as autism, bipolar, cerebral palsy, down syndrome, mental retardation, or schizophrenia.

My advice: You might not have won the genetic lottery that doesn’t mean you can’t win in life. Peter Dinklage didn’t let his dwarfism prevent him from becoming a great actor, Stevie Wonder didn’t let his blindness stop him from becoming a great singer, and Stephen Hawking didn’t let his ALS prevent him from becoming a great scientist.

Let these men be an example for you: Don’t let what you can’t do/don’t have, prevent you from doing what you can do/using what you do have.

“It doesn’t matter where you start, it matters where you end up.” – Barack Obama


I know it’s been a lot to take in so let’s quickly recap this week’s harsh facts:

30. The threat of consequences is necessary

29. Shit happens

28. The more you need help the harder it is to get

27. Most things in life are outside of your control

26. Big egos thrive

25. Almost all pro athletes use steroids

24. Everyone is trying to brainwash you

23. Fake news

22. You are your own worst enemy

21. All men are NOT created equal


This is part 3 of a 5 part series: “50 Harsh facts of life”

If you would like to read the other articles in this series here they are:

Harsh Facts of Life – Part 1

Harsh Facts of Life – Part 2

Harsh Facts of Life – Part 4

Harsh Facts of Life – Part 5

Or if you would like to read my other articles: Life Lessons All Articles


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